Oh what a week it’s been! I hesitated to write this, but since I’m anonymous on here I figured…what the hell!
We’ve all at some point worked with that one person…annoying, immature, selfish, manipulative, deceitful, conniving..,you get the point. I do believe I work with someone who exhibits all of these qualities.
To most people she appears to be the opposite of who she really is. Poor, pitiful, you know who. People feel sorry for her and her circumstances which she uses to her advantage. She never does anything wrong. It’s always someone else’s fault. It’s always why, why, why! I won’t go on about who she pretends to be, but rather who she really is, but first a little back story….
Working in a small place with multiple women is a conundrum in itself. Days filled with drama comes to mind as a description. You’re always gonna have those who like to stir the pot. Those who can’t mind their own business and make everything their business. But this one made a fatal mistake…months ago she told some lies about me to my supervisor…she wanted my hours (or perhaps it was one of those if she couldn’t have them no one else was going to have them either situations) and that’s how she got the ball rolling. Now, she’s done it to another one of my coworkers who worked the same hours as me and finally the evil one got what she wanted in a two part play. Her plan started with me and ended with my coworker.
I won’t go into all the specifics. It doesn’t matter. The point of the post is what happens when you go behind my back and those of my coworkers with lies and betrayal.
I’m an INFJ. I’ll give a person a lot of chances. I’ll forgive and try to understand. However, now I’m slamming the door on this coworker. She’s done me and so many others wrong one too many times. It’s going to be a tricky situation…I still have to work with her so I’ll have to be civil and talk to her when it’s work related, but in other matters she will get to enjoy my silence. I’m done with her on a personal level.
If anyone were to ever go “postal” in our office, it would be her. We joke about it sometimes, but I truly believe it. Maybe not in the sense of storming in with a weapon, but she’s been accused of keying a few cars that belong to her fellow employees after they’ve “upset” her.
Who is she? To those who haven’t known her long she’s an overly friendly, hyper, individual who seems to care about you and your life. To me she is an obnoxious, frenzied, manic, nosy woman. She lies, manipulates, and connives to get what she wants and she will step on and then over you all the while protesting her innocence and insist “I didn’t mean for that to happen”! I. Call. Bullshit! The guiltier she is the harder she tries to prove her innocence.
I recently had a coworker tell me she tries to stay on her good side so she doesn’t stab her in the back. Looks as though her facade is fading and others are seeing her for who she really is. My response was…quit appeasing her! She’s gonna stab you in the back anyway. I proceeded to say the individual in question doesn’t scare me. I know who she is behind the mask she wears. Not only do I not like her, but I won’t be forced to engage with her on a personal level and will keep all professional contact to a minimum. If she wants to mess with me after that, bring it on!! I see her for who she is and I’ve slammed the door on her. I’m done feeling sorry for her or trying to understand her. I think she may even be a sociopath. Really! I do! It’s worth mentioning one of her adult children won’t have anything to do with her after leaving home unless she absolutely has to.
I thank you all for listening to my rant. I’m angry and frustrated because things aren’t as they appear to those in charge, but I do believe the truth will come out eventually and all will see her without her mask…not just me and a select few. I do feel better after writing this and if someone else is dealing with a similar situation, I’d love to hear your thoughts or how you’ve handled it.
I think she realizes I’ve slammed the door on her even if she’s never heard of it and she doesn’t get what it truly means. I wish I could really slam a door in her face! I predict she’ll badger me trying to make me talk to her and make everyone feel sorry for her because I’m being mean to her. When she starts in I’ll just smile and say, ” sorry, too busy for personal conversation”! We all know that’s INFJ code for “Don’t even try…I’m done with you bitch”