A Spectacular Spectacle…

Took a little daytrip/roadtrip this weekend to the Jack o’ Lantern Spectacular in Louisville, Kentucky. It truly is spectacular!

It was a nice, chilly Fall evening. As you walk along the trail you feel as though you’re walking through an art gallery and the artists used pumpkins as their canvas. The theme this year was A to Z.

Their website describes it like this…

The Jack-O-Lantern Spectacular is from October 12– November 5, will be held in Iroquois Park with 5,000 carved pumpkins lining a ¼-mile walking trail, illuminated at night as an “art show” daily from dusk to 11 p.m. during the week (Sunday-Thursday) and midnight on Friday & Saturday.

Here is the link:

/http://www.jackolanternlouisville.com/

Sometimes there is a wait to walk the trail, but I feel the later you go the less time you’ll wait. Expect to wait on the weekends…but I promise, it’s worth it. You can also buy coffee, hot chocolate, hot apple cider, and beer before entering the “art gallery”.

I’m going to keep it short and let the photos do the talking. I took them all with my iPhone. No flash. Unfortunately I did not get photos from each section. Without further ado…

A ~ Alice In Wonderland 



C ~ Clocks




D ~ Dinosaurs 



E ~ Elephant




F ~ Fairytale 



K ~ Kingdom (Westeros/Game Of Thrones)


L ~ Literature



M ~ Music



R ~ Remembrance 



S ~ Seashore 



T ~ Thinkers



V ~ Vampire



W ~ Whimsical 


…..that’s just a sampling. If you’re in the area, go see for yourself. You won’t be disappointed!!

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Follow up on I’m Sorry You Feel That Way….

I’ve noticed for quite some time that this particular post is viewed on a daily basis by several different individuals…on some days it’s as many as five. It has never been one of my popular posts on WordPress. I was curious as to why my stats show it has been viewed on an almost daily basis since I wrote it over a year ago. So…me being me I decided to Google the words “sorry you feel that way” and there it was…the link to my blog post on page 2 of Google.

I’m not sure why this one post is getting so many views, but I think it’s safe to say several people a day are googling those words because they want to know just what they mean to other people.

Since writing that post I’ve come a long way from the woman I was at that time. The person that was on my mind when I wrote it is now a distant memory.  On the rare occasions that he does cross my mind…I have no feelings at all, good or bad. I know now I never needed anything from him to gain closure and move on. I did it all on my own in my own time. I wrote about the experience from my perspective and how I felt. No one but myself and the other person knows the extent of what was said to cause me to feel the way I did and that’s the way I want it. At the time I cared, but now I see that I don’t need anyone in my life that would make me feel guilty for having feelings or an opinion. I still believe they never meant to hurt me, but to blame me while maintaining his innocence was cowardly. Maybe I’m not completely over that part, but that’s good because it stays as a reminder to be more careful next time.

I am fascinated that people still read it long after I made peace with the situation that caused me to write it. The only comment it received was from someone who said “I think it’s impossible to make anyone feel a certain way. It’s their responsibility to own their own feelings. The phrase is not uncaring or dismissive”.

I will agree that a person should own their own feelings. The commenter did get that part right! I did own my feelings and the part I played in the situation. I know where I failed and what my shortcomings were….and I learned from it. Some of life’s best lessons come from difficult times.

But in my opinion where the commenter got it wrong is here…we’ve all said something to someone that made them feel a certain way that wasn’t good. We all perceive things differently, we all have different personalities, and we all feel things differently. Things said CAN be misinterpreted, but if you said them, you still own them and you should be prepared to answer for them honestly.

So while we have to own our own feelings it doesn’t mean we should be ashamed of how we feel or made to feel like we’re wrong for feeling the way we do. It’s okay to feel, but we are responsible for how we react and respond. In other words, feel it, but don’t make a bad situation worse in the way you interact with others. Feel it but don’t let it control you.

Now having said that, there will always be people in this world that will say all the right things for all the wrong reasons. People lie. They’re deceitful and manipulative. They know what to say to get what they want. They prey on the vulnerable and weak. When it’s time for them to back those words up with action, it’s never their fault. You took it wrong. You misunderstood. You’re too emotional….and they’re very fond of saying “I’m sorry you feel that way.

So while I moved on long ago from my experience, the lesson it taught me remains. Just because I mean what I say and back those words up with action, doesn’t mean everyone else does too. Not everyone has the same heart as I do.  I don’t trust people until they’ve proven to me that I can and I have a wall around me for my protection. It’s not very high because I still try to see the good in everyone, but it’s there nonetheless. 

…and on the occasions that my words or actions hurt someone, I acknowledge their feelings, give them a sincere apology, and do whatever I can to own my part for hurting them. Sometimes that means brutal honesty in the way I feel, but I’ll never make anyone feel bad for the feelings they have. I’ll listen, do my best to understand, and NEVER say “I’m sorry you feel that way”!

Here are a few memes because let’s face it…a lot of people do believe “I’m sorry you feel that way” IS a fake apology.

Thanks for reading and feel free to let me know what you think.. 

Cabin On The Lake…

Once upon a time there was a cabin in the woods. A beautiful, secluded little place with a fireplace and a hot tub on the deck. 

It was a special place. A place where the two of them could meet and get away from the world. Their secret hideaway. 

It doesn’t matter who they are or what their names are. All that matters is at the cabin they could be together and be themselves… or whoever they wanted to be.

They spent the day swimming together in the lake and picnicking on a blanket under a shady tree. They would drink wine and share stories so they could get to know one another better. They would kiss and neither one of them wanted to stop.

In the evenings they would enjoy a glass of wine while sitting in the hot tub and watch for shooting stars under a clear, starry night. 

They would lay in each other’s arms on the couch in front of the fireplace. They enjoyed each other’s company and their passion roared as bright as the fire. As the fire died, they lie together listening to the crickets chirping as a light breeze blew through the open window and a soft rain began to fall. She lays with her head on his chest as he plays with her hair. He kisses her goodnight exactly as he said he would and they fall asleep after an amazing day spent together.

It’s a nice story isn’t it? I wish I could say it were true, but it’s not. They’ve never met and they probably never will. 

If the fire matched the intensity of their conversations it would burn the cabin down. 

For now, the sun glistens on the lake. An empty blanket lays under a tree as a quiet breeze blows through the leaves. The hot tub sits empty. The crickets chirp and the stars shine on a clear, quiet night. They shine down on that empty cabin as the rain begins to gently fall. 

….and a single ember burns in that fireplace waiting for one of them to ignite it or put it out.

The Lonely INFJ…


Are INFJs just lonely souls lost between reality and dreams?

I don’t presume to speak for all of us, but we do seem to go through a lot of the same things…or as most of the world would say, we have “issues”.  We walk a lonely path most days, that’s for sure!

Feeling lonely is hard. I’ve felt lonely more times than I care to remember. Some days I want to be out in the world socializing and other days I want to hide away at home. If I become intensely lonely I’ll reach out to a few trusted friends and it does help me feel better to talk about how I feel. The problem is, as much as they care and try to understand how I feel, they don’t get me. Try as they might, they never will. I’ve learned to accept it.

I long to make a connection with someone…someone who understands me. I’ve met many interesting, kind, funny, intelligent, caring people but usually the moment comes when I realize they don’t understand me. IF I decide to show them a small part of who I really am…my different, sincere, quirky side they can become unresponsive or they tolerate it. I realize they aren’t going to be the friend I had hoped they’d be and the alienation and lonliness floods back in. I’ve learned to hold that side of myself back from a lot of people. I don’t know if it’s a failure on my part or that people just can’t relate to me.

In the past month I’ve been told by two close friends that “other people just don’t think like you do” (in regards to a certain man I talk to occasionally and just life in general). That’s the truth and I know it! Others don’t think and feel the same way as I do. I’m willing to do things and go the distance where others aren’t, and they don’t react in the same way as I do because I always feel more…more than I should and I know it.

I have moments where I think “what’s wrong with me”. What is it about me that turns people away? Is it all in my head? Am I being unreasonable in not getting the response from them that I want? Am I too weird, sensitive, intense, serious, boring, hard to understand? Now, not only am I lonely, but I’m insecure.

I know I spend a lot of time inside my head and overthink every little thing that crosses my mind. When I get this way I try to get out and interact with others, but it’s hard because I always have to hide a part of myself, the part that makes me, me. Putting myself in that situation can make me feel even lonlier than I did before. It’s a very lonely feeling that those you care about most don’t understand you and they never really will.

We all yearn for a deep, touch your soul kind of relationship and those are difficult to find regardless of your personality type. 

I know I take thing way too seriously, but I’ve never been a “live in the moment” kind of girl. As hard as I try, I can’t go with the flow and I overthink and over analyze things and situations. I want all the answers even though I know I’ll never get them. We don’t react the same way as other people do and we feel things differently as well.

I was told by my boss not long ago during my evaluation that out of all her employees I was the only one she couldn’t get a read on and figure out. She actually thought I didn’t like her. (I do by the way) Why would she think she could figure me out when I haven’t accomplished it myself! I jokingly told her when she figured me out to let me in on it. She must have thought it was funny because I received a glowing evaluation. 

Anyone who’s an INFJ could answer this for her though. We’re guarded on purpose. We have to be. We want more than anything to be understood, but it rarely happens. The times we’ve opened up to the wrong people is a brutal reminder to keep most things to ourselves.

Dating and meeting new people in regards to romance is a topic in itself! It’s hard enough, but for INFJs, or this one anyway, it’s devastating when you think you’ve made a connection with someone and it doesn’t go anywhere or fizzles out. Maybe it has nothing to do with my personality type. Maybe I’m just meeting the wrong people…people who’s intentions aren’t as sincere as mine. Trust me…I haven’t even begun to show them who I am so if the little I do show them causes them distress, it’s best they run as fast as they can. The sooner the better for both our sakes. 

As much as I’d like to be antisocial and just go off and live in a cave most days, I can’t because I crave human connections. I don’t always fit in and I’m at peace with that. We have gifts and talents that are needed to help others. Even though people hurt us and use us, overall we do make a difference…WE DO COUNT! Most people won’t miss us until we’re gone and I hate to say this, but once we’re gone, there’s no coming back, it’s too late. Whether it’s the infamous INFJ door slam or deciding to keep those people in our lives yet hiding our true selves from them to make them comfortable….we know.

Being lonely and the deafening silence that surrounds that lonliness is for me, one of the bad things about being an INFJ, but as I said above…we do count. We have many other great qualities that make us the unique individuals that we are. 

All that aside, for once in our lives thanks to blogs and the internet, WE ARE NOT ALONE! We have each other right here to talk to. It’s not the same as physical contact, but it sure makes me feel a little less lonely!
K❤️

Winter Is Here…

Winter will be here Sunday, July 16….for those not familiar with the saying, that means Game Of Thrones Season 7 premiers Sunday night! I’m super excited! I can’t wait to see what stories will be told this season. 

There are lots of fan theories out there such as R + L = J….Rhaegar + Lyanna = Jon!  If I remember correctly, Varys brought Ned paper and ink when he was arrested. Could he have written Jon a letter about his mother? Does Varys still have the letter? Could Jon be a Baratheon and not a Targaryen? We know nothing…yet!

Let’s talk about Bran for a minute…Bran is now the three eyed raven. The former told him he would fly. As ravens, yes….but could it be possible that Bran is actually the Night King from the past? If Bran is time traveling “flying” is he seeing different versions of himself from different time periods? Was the Night King a Stark ancestor? Will Bran change something in the past and when he wakes up, Ned Stark will be ruler of the Seven Kingdoms? Could Bran be controlling everything that happens in Game Of Thrones? (Does the concept of time traveling and its effects confuse everyone else as much as it does me)?

Could Cersei and Jamie actually be Targaryens and Tyrion be the only legitimate son of Tywin Lannister? They are  both blonde and Tywin would turn over in his grave if Tyrion were his only heir. Or could Tyrion be half Targaryen and that’s why the dragons didn’t harm him when he unchained them?

Speaking of Jamie…I have a feeling he will hold the title of Queenslayer along with Kingslayer! He and Cersei’s inscestuous love affair has come to an end. Of that I’m certain!

I’m not sure what to think about Daenarys anymore. She’s still one of my favorite characters and I always wanted her to sit on the Iron Throne, but I’m not sure she’s going to get there. Sure, she’s got an army AND dragons…three of them, but is it a enough? 

At this point I’m hoping Jon Snow comes out victorious, but as we’ve learned from the past six seasons, no one is safe. It’s anyone’s guess as to who will sit on the Iron Throne?! Could it be Sam? Hold the door…that would be a twist!

I just hope the dragons survive. I haven’t read the books, but I’ve heard that there will be three dragon riders. I’m guessing in order to tame and ride a dragon one must have Targaryen blood running through their veins. I think we can all agree, Dany is not the last, surviving Targaryen. Who will the three be?

….Let’s just hope that the Night King doesn’t come flying in on one of the dragons. Now that would give new meaning to the title A Song Of Fire And Ice!!

I’m anxious to see how it all plays out and if any of the fan theories are correct….only time (travel) will tell!

Leave some of your own theories in the comments if you’d like or let me know what you think of mine. Enjoy season 7! 

Beach Vacation…

I just returned from a fabulous vacation on Florida’s Emerald Coast in Destin. I was a little concerned about the weather due to the fact that Tropical Storm Cindy had just blown thru the area a few days before we arrived…my worries were in vain. We had a few rainy days, but overall the weather was great! 

We spent every day at the beach. Even on the days it rained, it didn’t last all day and we were able to go after it stopped. We spent our days floating in the Gulf, soaking up the sun, boogie boarding, and jumping waves! 

I got pretty good at jumping waves by the end of the trip. We’d go out just past where the waves broke, wait for the next one to come in, and jump into it and “ride” it just before it broke. Sometimes they fizzled out, other times we judged it wrong and got smacked in the face by the wave, but the times we got it right were awesome! 

We even saw a sea turtle swim past us while we were playing in the Gulf! That was exciting! We found out later from the lifeguard that the turtle was probably waiting for it to get dark so she could come ashore and lay her eggs. Fun sea turtle fact…the female sea turtle always returns to the beach where she hatched to lay her own eggs. Conservation officers keep watch at night during the months of June thru October and mark off the nests to be sure they aren’t disturbed by beach goers. It would be so exciting to watch those little turtles make the journey from their nest to the Gulf once they’ve hatched. A new bucket list entry perhaps?!?

We ate at a few restaurants while we were there. The Donut Hole has some of the best donuts for a quick and easy breakfast to take back to your condo or hotel. If you’re ever in Destin, try the peanut butter filled donut or the vanilla or chocolate filled powdered sugar angels. 

The Back Porch is a big tourist favorite with seating overlooking the beach and the Gulf. I had the steak and crab legs and it was very good. A bit pricey, but hey, I’m on vacation so I made an exception…plus the view and atmosphere were awesome!


Merlin’s Pizza is a great place if you want something quick and easy. Some of the best pizza I’ve had in a while and their cheese bread is amazing….a meal in itself! We had the chicken bacon ranch pizza.

Now for my favorite place…Bric a Brac restaurant. It’s a quirky, fun place. The decorations are a sight to behold, they have a dance floor and live music on certain nights of the week, the atmosphere is amazing and the food is out of this world! I had the manicotti which comes with a salad and roll and for dessert I had their bread pudding. Best. Manicotti. Ever!

If you ever have the opportunity to visit Destin or the surrounding area, I hope you will. Get a little sand in your soul and have fun!!

Pear, Walnut, and Blue Cheese Flatbread…

I had an amazing flatbread at The Cheesecake Factory not long ago and I recreated the recipe at home. The ingredients compliment the others so well and it’s very delicious. I’d love to share it with you and as always, please let me know what you think.

**note…I used pre packaged Naan bread for my crust. You can use pre packaged flatbreads as well and there are many brands to choose from. You could also make your own, but if  you’ve read my blog before regarding recipes, you know I like to keep it simple, quick, and easy. I love food, but I don’t like spending a lot of time in the kitchen! 

Ingredients:  recipe serves four


Naan or flatbread

8 oz. package shredded mozzarella cheese

1-2 ripe pears sliced and then slivered

1 oz. chopped walnuts

1/2 cups blue cheese

1/4 cups diced onions

1 tablespoon of butter

2 tablespoons of olive oil to brush crust

Sprinkle of arugula 

Directions:
Preheat oven to 350 degrees Fahrenheit. Arrange walnuts single layer on baking pan. Toast walnuts in oven about 5-10 minutes. 

Melt butter in skillet over medium heat. Add diced onions and cook until carmelized, stirring occasionally…about 5-10 minutes. Remove and set aside.

Brush flatbreads with olive oil. Cover flatbreads in a layer of mozzarella cheese and distribute evenly using all of the cheese. Top each flatbread with blue cheese, pears, toasted almonds, and carmelized onions.

Transfer to baking pan. Cook until cheese melts and flatbreads are golden brown. 350 degrees Fahrenheit for about 15 minutes, but keep an eye on them so they don’t burn! (I cooked two at a time) 

Cool for 5-10 minutes, sprinkle with arugula, cut and serve.  Enjoy!  (I paired mine with fried mozzarella sticks as an appetizer and a small garden salad)

My daughter loved it, but if you have a picky eater you can choose your own ingredients and make it with whatever you like!